it’s not giving up, it’s letting in

28Jul09

We shouldn’t fight for something not worth the while. Yes, it was fantastic. But hey, it’s not anymore. Save the energy and let it go. I’m off to seek better things elsewhere.

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Dusting off

22Jul09

I’m transitioning into another phase of my life. What has been said and done before is well over; it is what it’s called Past;  once part, but now shadow of my existence.

And for every phase to pass, a lesson must first be learned. Which is why there are good and bad times, ups and downs,  it’s all part of a learning process; the road of discovery.

And with each lesson there are good discoveries, and discoveries that would’ve been happier left undiscovered.  Learning what you thought might have been important is actually not so, is what I call a good discovery. An adjustment of priorities, and you’re good to go.

But of course not forgetting the Yin and Yang of the world order, there are bad discoveries. What is considered a bad discovery? It’s actually just a slight difference from a good discovery, a fine line that separates a huge difference. Learning what you believed was true, is actually not so, is what I call a bad discovery. Cause who would like having to readjust beliefs? It would mean that you have been living a lie.

I was at my lowest point for quite some time, a time and experience that was excruciating to bear, but refreshing to come out of. I learnt that money is important, but it should never be used as a measure of character. I learnt what love and sacrifice really weigh. And I learnt that only the wiser, and the people who have been through more parts of life will never expect you to justify love and sacrifice.  I learnt who my true friends are, and who are ‘friends’ you can only call when you’re doing well.

I realised that only at the lowest, does humility allow me to see the little signs that I would have missed to know what is good for me. I saw who is judemental and fake, and who is pure and genuine; I saw a loving friend, and I saw a proud friend who has no idea what love is.

Like I said, an adjustment of priorities is good, but an adjustment of beliefs is a sad process. But hey, we discover, we change accordingly, dust ourselves off, and we move on.

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Die Heart

13Jul09

You’ll only discover what are the things you need in your life when you don’t have them.

K and I have been reduced to an average, no-butterflies-in-the-stomach couple. The equation to a dying relationship goes …

Taking each other for granted + bad habits + less hugs & kisses + having to ask for hugs and kisses + snores keeping someone awake all night + not enough sleep + not enough energy at work + shitty work performance + never enough money + no dates + just mahjong + gambling debts + no activities to do together = a relationship that is spiraling at top speed down the abyss. (can you spot the dominoes effect in the equation?)

Every woman needs to be romanced at least once in awhile, so she can feel like a woman, and in turn, make her man feel like a man. Enough said. I’m switching on my I-don’t-give-a-damn-anymore cold bitch mode from this point forward.

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What are your milk teef up to?

03Jul09

There lives a very talented artist in California. And I think her name is Inhae. And I think she is either korean or Japanese. But I know she is an amazing blogger. And I know you would think so too. Click here to visit her blog and get ready to fall in love with the adorable milk toofs – Ickle and Lardee.

My fave milk toof is Ickle. Cause he loves his books too

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